alcohol and teenagers

[MsBoop]

hey guys...

that's half the issue, she isn't really wanting to drink yet at this stage so is it stupid to introduce it already? she is been in contact with boys who are drunk and probably more needs instruction on what to do in those situations...

OH well if she actually isnt interested then yeh it is kinda stupid to bring it up because chances are when she does decide to dabble in alcohol because she's older than when all her friends started and because she will have spent the last 2-3 years watching them all have hangovers and go over board then she will more likely start out slow anyway to learn her own limits....generally, (this is just from my own experience with friends and peers and my lil bro) when teens wait till the appropriate age to start drinking, they are more responsible then the ones (like me lol) who started at 13/14/15 etc so you guys are probably fine.

As preciousrose said, maybe offer her a smal glass of wine with dinner or something just to see how she reacts and she may not even want it

[twistedsista]

I havent read all the comments so sorry if I go over everything.

Alcohol is illegal to anyone in this country under the age of 18yrs old, where it be in your home, the toilet or a public place. Supplying alcohol to a minor can be a crimminally ppunishable offence.

Having said that my darling 14 yr old, who I am sure Smurf will back me up on this- single handedly almost ruined my cruise when he decided to get drunk the moment I left town and go to school and threaten a teacher- he was suspended from school from November last year until feb this year

Then before christmas, the night before a very big event, he is allowed out on good behaviour for a sleep over with a friend to play the x box and hang out. I spoke to this kids mother and she assured me her 'son was a good kid' and they dont like drinking.

Well blow me down with a feather, the drunk (*&^ bought them alcohol and then went and broke a drink machine at hungry jacks giving him a nice offical caution by the police that is now on his permanent record.

In 5 days he turns 15- if he makes it. He is a great kid, very polite, lovely even, but there is a reason why we have laws that say minors are not legally allowed to drink alcohol.

Its because they cant handle it, their body is not mature enough to handle the toxins and it turns 'great, lovely kids' into mongrels.

So its all well and good to give them a taste at home, but why the rush? Id be asking your DH that question. Im trying to slow the ageing process down at 35, why is there a hurry to make them grow up so quickly at 17 or younger.

So thats my spell on things lol, check out my fb sometimes lol. Its ageing me way to fast lol

[jud88hanne]

DH and i are moving to his hometown in 2 weeks. there is a good possibility that his 17 year old sister may be staying with us or at least a few nights a week. she is 18 at the end of this year. DH seems to think it's a good idea to "teach" her responsible drinking/drinking in moderation, coz his dad did it for him and it "worked".

i am very against it because a. it is against the law regardless of what her friends are doing. b. all that new research that says introducing alcohol to teenagers while the brain is still developing is dangerous etc and a few other things.

we have agreed to disagree for the moment but i would love to hear some opinions/arguements, particularly for my case coz we have to choose a course of action before we go. DH seems to think the "scientific evidence" about the brain thing is a load of toss.

thanks.

I suggest DONT INTRODUCE. It might be the only reason why she will be drinking much and it would be hard on your part to accept it. It may teach her or it may not. Both his sister and him is different. I mean they are not the same person so she might get disciplined or she may not. The problem there is you taught her to drink and if she would like it then you would regret it your whole life. It would be better if she learned it from her friends and it would be much better if she will not learn to drink at all. The number of troubled teens are getting higher and higher and you might want to exclude her from the list. So i suggest, dont introduce it to her.

[Turbo]

I agree, If she's not interested in drinking, why have the talk?? Just because her friends might do it, doesn't mean she will. My friends used to get pissed when we were 17 and I never touched the stuff until I was about 18.5. (My dad and I made a deal when I was a kid that if I didn't drink until I was 18, he'd buy me a car ) But besides that, I probably wouldn't have touched alcohol anyway because I didn't need to get drunk to have a good time and still don't!

Would definately have that sex talk though

[xMaryx]

Alcohol is illegal to anyone in this country under the age of 18yrs old, where it be in your home, the toilet or a public place. Supplying alcohol to a minor can be a crimminally ppunishable offence.

Actually depends on the state Meegs. I once taunted police in a divvy van whilst underage and drunk. They were trying to get me to step off my friends front lawn (private property) onto the footpath so they could charge me with underage drinking. I sat down and had another swig and laughed at them. They left, as in Victoria, there was nothing they could do unless I left private property.
Alcohol laws of Australia - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Me, I think you are overthinking it all. Wait and see what happens and play it by ear. I think the key is to encourage avoidance until of legal age and focus on harm minimisation (harm from the alcohol as well as related consequences).

[tinybubbles]

Drinking is a personal choice, If you feel you would like to try it one night then you can experience it, but if the idea of it does not appeal to you there is no need to. You should be always careful to start off lightly though, and not drink more than you can handle on your first try.





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