Aching to try again

[TwinMumma]

It's only been two weeks since my little girls were born peacefully at 24.5 weeks and I am devastated at their loss but at the same time I am wishing time away so we can try again. I am aching for a child and the loss of my girls has just made the ache stronger.

So many people I know are expecting and although I am happy for them I also jealous that my belly is empty. I just wish the bleeding would stop so we can get started again

[Smudge]

Oh twinmumma! My heart breaks for you. I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you can start again soon and hold your babies in your arms forever.

xx

[AidanCameronsMum]

TwinMumma that is very normal to want to try again straight away. After I lost my twins I had one AF then got pregnant, unfortunately that turned out to be a blighted ovum and after my D&C I had another AF then got pregnant.

You do need time to heal emotionally as well as physically, it was very hard to be pregnant after a loss - I lived for every Ob appointment when I could see my baby on the screen with a happy heartbeat. My Ob was very understanding and I was going a lot more often then normal but it is still so very hard.

You are still in the very early grieving stage as well - you and your partner need time to cry without being so stressed of a subsequent pregnancy. Not sure if you ahve spoken to a counsellor yet but I found going to support meetings in the first year was so helpful, meeting others that had gone through a loss was comforting, just to know that you were not alone.

Sending some hugs

[Z'sMum]

Oh TwinMumma - my heart breaks for you

Some great words of advice from AidanCameronsMum who has, unfortunately, been thru it.
Take time to grieve.

I know it's not what u want to hear right now, but it'll happen when the time is right.

Sending big hugs your way...

[jml]

Twinmumma, I'm thinking of you during this really tough time.
Some really good advice above - counselling can really help deal with the grief and anxiety as you embark on trying to conceive again.
Big hugs to you.

[stillhopefull]

So sorry for your loss Twinmumma. I remember it only too well. Only 2 weeks out and I'm sure everything is still quite raw and still sinking in. You are not alone wanting to try again straight away, I felt the same way. AidanCameronsMum has given you some great advice, take your time to grieve and heal. It will take some time but I can assure you it does get better, little by little. Sending you all my love and prayers at this difficult time

[Ayesha]

Oh I am SO sorry to hear of your loss...........May your precious little girls be flying high.....

I think your reaction is very normal. After my ectopic pregnancy I wanted to fall pregnant straight away too.

[Trixie]

I am so, so sorry to hear of your loss.

I can totally understand your desire to try again so you can be pregnant again but you do need to take some time to recover both emotionally and physically.

(((hugs))) and the very best of wishes for a happy and healthy pregnancy in the future.

T

[rainbowsend]

Oh honey im so sorry your girls are angels now , please take time to grieve first , it is so hard both emotionally and physically grieveing and it is good to speak o someone about everything , it helps to put things in order and get some clear thoughts, SIDS are fantastic , but i also understand the pull for the need to be pregnant again but i also know jsut how hard the next pergnancy will be both emotionally and physically too and as hard as it is take a month or 2 to just be and grieve and work through it all first.

Lots of people are here for support if you need it so please jsut yell if you need some advice or jsut a listening ear , sadly our club is not short of members but we all understand the pain and emptiness of loss well

Love and hugs honey

xxx

[TwinMumma]

Thanks again everyone for your kind words of support. Our doctor has advised us to wait at least two cycles before we try again to make sure we can properly date the pregnancy for testing that we'll have to do. The good news is my bleeding has stopped enough for us to BD again- although we are using contraception given that I'm quite sure I ovulated yesterday. So hopefully the wait won't be too long - but long enough for us to get through this initial period if greif.

The hospital has a monthly support group that I'm going to attend in a couple of weeks which hopefully will help a bit too.

Thanks again