http://forum.birth.com.au Your cute little baby is now an active little person. Share your joys, trials and tribulations here. en Thu, 09 Sep 2010 11:16:01 GMT vBulletin 60 http://forum.birth.com.au/images/misc/rss.jpg http://forum.birth.com.au http://forum.birth.com.au/toddlers-preschoolers/99405-3-yr-old-nightwaking-i-need-sleep.html Thu, 09 Sep 2010 05:35:31 GMT Hi All My 3 yr old DS constantly wakes during the night (sometimes 3-4 times) and comes into our room and wants me to come and sit on his bed with him. Sometimes he wants to get into our bed but most of the time he wants to go back to his bed, but wants me to sit with him. Some nights he goes... Hi All

My 3 yr old DS constantly wakes during the night (sometimes 3-4 times) and comes into our room and wants me to come and sit on his bed with him. Sometimes he wants to get into our bed but most of the time he wants to go back to his bed, but wants me to sit with him. Some nights he goes back to sleep within a minute or two, other nights I can be sitting with him for an hour or more.

I have asked him why he wants this, if he is scared etc but he says no he just wants mummy to sit with him. I am not sure but I think it might have something to do with the fact that we have 5 week old twins at home and he is adjusting to the new situation.

Regardless though, I need some strategies to keep him asleep in his own bed for the whole night! I am currently spending my nights tag teaming between 2 newborn reflux babies and a demanding 3 yr old! I need my sleep!

Any suggestions?

Thanks ]]> Toddlers and preschoolers alicia1980 http://forum.birth.com.au/toddlers-preschoolers/99405-3-yr-old-nightwaking-i-need-sleep.html http://forum.birth.com.au/toddlers-preschoolers/99392-new-tactics-please-terrible-twos.html Wed, 08 Sep 2010 23:56:40 GMT Hi there! This is a desperate cry for help from a sleep deprived mum of two under two-and-a-half!

My 2 year old daughter is very bright, socially and emotionally very mature, very empathetic to other's, and is becoming very manipulative. She is also a kind, loving, affectionate, high energy beautiful cheeky little girl who has me ripping my hair out most days!!!

She is constantly experimenting with various behaviours to push me to get what she wants (and whilst I know this is "normal" toddler behaviour - she really is EXTREME).

For example: Her tactics include: demanding, asking nicely, whinging, pleading, asking every adult she can find until one says "yes", helping herself, "sucking up" with cuddles and acting cute, negotiating, waiting until you leave the room and trying to do it herself anyway, breaking or spilling things to distract your attention away from the object of discussion, hurting her brother to deliberately earn time out in the hopes of getting a "guilt" capiluation afterwards on what she originally wanted....the list goes on.

I have noticed that she will mix up the order of her tactics to see if she gets a different (better for her!) reaction from me. Her antics will usually result in me losing my already frayed temper and raising my voice to her in anger.

I do not want to be one of "those" mothers that sounds like a screaming banshee all the time.

Smacking does not work on this child. Time outs in her room are no longer working as a deterrent - she now carries out her misdeed and then calmly walks to her room and shuts the safetly gate behind herself to lock herself in! I find this very un-empowering as a parent!

Has anyone else dealt with this type of behaviour before? Has anyone got some suggestions for other ways to discipline / reward her? Any help will be gratefully received!

Cheers,
Sa ]]> Toddlers and preschoolers Sa_Possum http://forum.birth.com.au/toddlers-preschoolers/99392-new-tactics-please-terrible-twos.html http://forum.birth.com.au/toddlers-preschoolers/99257-4-year-old-masturbation.html Fri, 03 Sep 2010 23:08:06 GMT My 4 year old son has humped himself to sleep on and off. Recently he i have seen him with a finger in his butt crack (sorry I didnt know how else to put it) as if he were touching his anus. I have only seen him do that a couple of times but it had me a little concerned. I feel that it is normal... My 4 year old son has humped himself to sleep on and off. Recently he i have seen him with a finger in his butt crack (sorry I didnt know how else to put it) as if he were touching his anus. I have only seen him do that a couple of times but it had me a little concerned. I feel that it is normal because he only does it when he goes to sleep on occasions. He has not been in any situations where he could have been molested in anyway so I am sure that is not it. I feel if something was wrong I would be able to tell but I spoke to my mother about it and she acted as if it were completely abnormal and that he may grow up to be a weirdo or something. I just assumed he did it when he wanted to feel good but now my mom has me scared. Do you think this is normal or should I bring him to a mental doctor or something? ]]> Toddlers and preschoolers Heatherpeterson01 http://forum.birth.com.au/toddlers-preschoolers/99257-4-year-old-masturbation.html http://forum.birth.com.au/toddlers-preschoolers/99225-help-me-not-yell.html Fri, 03 Sep 2010 04:03:29 GMT Firstly I would like to ask where has my patience gone? I feel as though I am constantly yelling at DS when he is being REALLY naughty. He is really pushing my buttons at the moment, and going through a really cheeky stage lots of backchat etc (my GOD this begins at just 2 1/2... far out!) ... Firstly I would like to ask where has my patience gone?

I feel as though I am constantly yelling at DS when he is being REALLY naughty. He is really pushing my buttons at the moment, and going through a really cheeky stage lots of backchat etc (my GOD this begins at just 2 1/2... far out!)

Anyway I need some help on strategies that you use to stop from 'yelling' at your child when they are naughty. I am a bad mum and just go off at him sometimes, and don't realise I do it until after. I try to speak calmly, but as you know is often easier said than done :ohmy:

I am sure that me yelling isn't helping, and not really setting a very good example for him.

Please help... I feel like a terrible mother at the moment. ]]> Toddlers and preschoolers elmo12 http://forum.birth.com.au/toddlers-preschoolers/99225-help-me-not-yell.html http://forum.birth.com.au/toddlers-preschoolers/99216-teething-related-poo-diet-q.html Thu, 02 Sep 2010 23:32:20 GMT What do you feed your toddler when their stomach is slightly upset but it's not affecting their appetite??

We're up to poo no 5 here this morning and it's not even 9:30 yet.. (thankfully DH was at home to deal with the first four :011:) DD has been trying to cut her second set of molars for a couple of weeks now but they are not popping through, so I'm fairly sure it's related to that as she's not tired, sick or really upset or anything.

She had oatmeal with blueberries and a cup of milk for breakfast (this was before we realised she was going to be sitting on the potty for the most morning, otherwise would've omitted the milk), and then a bit later on asked for a banana.

What should I give her for lunch/dinner seeing as she's still as hungry as usual, it just keeps being "processed" a lot faster than normally. ]]> Toddlers and preschoolers hobbes http://forum.birth.com.au/toddlers-preschoolers/99216-teething-related-poo-diet-q.html http://forum.birth.com.au/toddlers-preschoolers/99133-am-i-doing-something-wrong.html Tue, 31 Aug 2010 00:08:16 GMT DD has been TTing since december (start of) and within the first 2 weeks she was going really well. Anyways after about 4 months, she started just peeing and pooping in her pants CONSTANTLY :( now she has been training for over 9 months and is still having at least 3 accidents a day and not asking... DD has been TTing since december (start of) and within the first 2 weeks she was going really well. Anyways after about 4 months, she started just peeing and pooping in her pants CONSTANTLY :( now she has been training for over 9 months and is still having at least 3 accidents a day and not asking to go to the toilet. Its happening at daycare and at home. She fights to go to the loo but once shes on it she will just go no troubles. We have no trouble with poos now, many are on the loo and she will ask to go for those.

We have a potty, we have one of those step/seats in one and we have one of the kiddy seats which fit under the big toilet seat. I have done stickers, rewards of all sorts and i still make a big fuss of her even if she is half going in her pants, stopping then finishing in the loo.

My question is... how long is this going to go on for? How can i get her to ask to go to the loo? has/does anyone else have the same/a similar problem?

I've also tried the 3 day potty training system but she was just weeing herself anyways because she thought it was funny when i ran her to the loo while she wee'd :( and i got over getting completely covered in pee and having to clean up so much.

Please help me out here :( ]]> Toddlers and preschoolers Natalie89 http://forum.birth.com.au/toddlers-preschoolers/99133-am-i-doing-something-wrong.html http://forum.birth.com.au/toddlers-preschoolers/99104-sign.html Mon, 30 Aug 2010 08:04:46 GMT DS is 21 months and just this week has started to tell me when he's about to do a poo. Is this a sign he's ready for TTing? I did sit him on the loo when he said it, and I could smell something was going on down there:o but he did nothing, and then didn't go until a couple of hours later so maybe me putting him on the loo delayed it?!

So should I start trying or is it too early, DD was a late TTer so I'm not sure ]]> Toddlers and preschoolers Starfish http://forum.birth.com.au/toddlers-preschoolers/99104-sign.html http://forum.birth.com.au/toddlers-preschoolers/99046-dds-behaviour-when-df-around.html Sat, 28 Aug 2010 11:26:58 GMT Help, whenever DF is around (evenings, weekends etc) DD's behaviour takes a complete turn for the worse! She whinges and cries at the slightest thing, wants her own way or thats it, she refuses food that she would normally eat, she acts out, wants to watch endless episodes of Pingu, and just generally becomes rude. When she starts acting like this during the day (which is relatively infrequent) i know she is either tired, hungry or bored so i take quick action, but when DF is around nothing works and it doesn't seem to be any of those things.

I know she has just had a massive change in her life with DS arriving, and also going from full time childcare to being at home, but is this just a stage? I feel like DF thinks its my fault and she is like this all day, but i know she just wants his attention and is doing anything to get it.

Is there anything i can do? DF rarely disciplines her, or follows through and she knows it! He also gives her everything that she wants 99% of the time, which is really working against him as well, but i don't know he recognises it. ]]> Toddlers and preschoolers Sunshine82 http://forum.birth.com.au/toddlers-preschoolers/99046-dds-behaviour-when-df-around.html http://forum.birth.com.au/toddlers-preschoolers/99003-wanting-put-daughter-into-kinder-early-but-her-birthday-after-cut-off-date.html Fri, 27 Aug 2010 05:22:59 GMT Is there anyway to get around the cut off date? My daughter is 4 on the 1st of june next yr i would of liked to enroll her in kinder for the start of the yr but the cut of date is april? she is as developed as my son who is at kinder now with her speach, social skills and understanding and is... Is there anyway to get around the cut off date? My daughter is 4 on the 1st of june next yr i would of liked to enroll her in kinder for the start of the yr but the cut of date is april? she is as developed as my son who is at kinder now with her speach, social skills and understanding and is really just getting bored at home with me, i started kinder a yr early and it was great for me and i always kept up just find (my daughter is a lil mini me n looks and personality) so now i dont know what i can do about getting her into kinder? ]]> Toddlers and preschoolers ash1988 http://forum.birth.com.au/toddlers-preschoolers/99003-wanting-put-daughter-into-kinder-early-but-her-birthday-after-cut-off-date.html http://forum.birth.com.au/toddlers-preschoolers/98972-constatly-licking-their-lips-mouth.html Thu, 26 Aug 2010 10:21:50 GMT Anyone else have a little one who is constantly licking their lips and mouth area..my little blessing keeps doing this and no matter how many times i say your lips are dry and sore sweety put some balm on it or cream the licking continues. I am applying sorbolene cream umpteen times a day along... Anyone else have a little one who is constantly licking their lips and mouth area..my little blessing keeps doing this and no matter how many times i say your lips are dry and sore sweety put some balm on it or cream the licking continues. I am applying sorbolene cream umpteen times a day along with some lippy balm I bought especially for that but with all the cold weather and the licking and the snotty nose and dry lips the red sore rash is just getting worse...anyone got any ideas for me please? ]]> Toddlers and preschoolers whisper http://forum.birth.com.au/toddlers-preschoolers/98972-constatly-licking-their-lips-mouth.html http://forum.birth.com.au/toddlers-preschoolers/98892-computer-games-3yr-old.html Tue, 24 Aug 2010 10:57:38 GMT What games do you all recommend for a 3yr old? I want something that will help her with her numbers and letters... But I dont know of any... What games do you all recommend for a 3yr old? I want something that will help her with her numbers and letters... But I dont know of any... ]]> Toddlers and preschoolers TwoLittlePrincesses http://forum.birth.com.au/toddlers-preschoolers/98892-computer-games-3yr-old.html http://forum.birth.com.au/toddlers-preschoolers/98873-tt-issues-sleep-issues-being-normal-toddler-i-give-up.html Tue, 24 Aug 2010 04:25:13 GMT DD is driving me nuts, and taking a physical toll as well.

I'm 38 weeks pg, and for the last few weeks DD (23 months) has been TTing. I was happy to wait, esp. with a new baby coming, but she's been using the potty since 8 months (usually 3 times a day), and getting nappies on her became an issue and she really wanted to use the toilet. She's been pretty good - she'll take herself to the toilet, or let one of us know when she needs it and we take her. However some days it's puddles galore, like yesterday where we got to mid-afternoon and I put nappies back on her. I guess it's kind of toddler-led TTing?

We always give her the choice of nappy (No!), undies (No!) or noo-noo bum, which is her preference. And she does much better with no pants on. Generally.

However sleep has become an absolute nightmare. She can't stand having a wet nappy. We put her down at 7pm or a little before, then usually have 2 trips to the toilet (and a LOT of stuffing round in between) before she'll go to sleep. It usually takes an hour - so that's an hour every evening where DH and I are in limbo, not eating dinner or anything because we know we'll be interrupted.

The same is happening with day sleeps now too. Yesterday it took 2 poos in nappies/trips to the toilet and an hour before she went to sleep. Today we've had 2 poos in nappies this morning so I thought naptime we'd be ok, but no. We've had a poo in nappy + toilet, wet + toilet, poo + toilet AGAIN, and she's still not asleep almost 2 hours later. DH and I figure we just ahve to ride it out. He's being brilliant and does the heavy lifting in the evenings. But during the day it's just me, and all the lifting and chasing round is absolute murder on my back. And in a couple of weeks we'll have a newborn. It's really hard because we can't just tell her to go to sleep when she wants the toilet, surely that would undo any TTing progress.

I'm at a loss - is the toilet drama just a ploy to keep getting out of bed and getting attention? Is she dropping her day sleep (PLEASE NO!)? Or are we doing something wrong with her TTing? Does anyone have any suggestions? ]]> Toddlers and preschoolers rufusdoofus http://forum.birth.com.au/toddlers-preschoolers/98873-tt-issues-sleep-issues-being-normal-toddler-i-give-up.html http://forum.birth.com.au/toddlers-preschoolers/98845-seriously-bad-teether.html Mon, 23 Aug 2010 05:18:34 GMT does anyone else have a seriously bad teether? feels like i am in tears every day or every second day. my DS lately has been getting his 2 year old molars. he has been a bad teether from the get go really but different symptoms e.g. fever, drooling, off food. he will still eat biscuits/chips -... does anyone else have a seriously bad teether?

feels like i am in tears every day or every second day. my DS lately has been getting his 2 year old molars. he has been a bad teether from the get go really but different symptoms e.g. fever, drooling, off food. he will still eat biscuits/chips - yummy things me and DH eat but won't eat any meals, even ones he normally loves. he wants milk every time emmy has a bottle, when she has 4 a day it's hard to say no. we are getting massive tantrums. i know twice before he had a mega tantrum which was a combination of teething and not getting his own way where he was inconsolable/head banging etc for like 30mins. just had another one of those.

i am so over it. when is it going to stop? i want my lovely little boy back. thank God we haven't had the same problems with emmy.

i am so jealous of all of you out there who have kids who never get any symptoms. ]]> Toddlers and preschoolers eire http://forum.birth.com.au/toddlers-preschoolers/98845-seriously-bad-teether.html http://forum.birth.com.au/toddlers-preschoolers/98797-toddler-feet-normal.html Sun, 22 Aug 2010 01:07:33 GMT DD 20 months turns her feet in (pigeon toed). I used to think it was just a baby thing but I'm starting to wonder if I should be taking her to see a specialist in case she needs some sort of treatment. Also, her second toe sometimes seems to sit higher than the others. Is this normal? ]]> Toddlers and preschoolers mcmum2be http://forum.birth.com.au/toddlers-preschoolers/98797-toddler-feet-normal.html http://forum.birth.com.au/toddlers-preschoolers/98689-how-did-you-teach-your-toddler-how-spell-their-name-recognise-alphabet.html Thu, 19 Aug 2010 04:33:36 GMT As the title states, how did you do this?

Currently i am spelling out the word (concentrating on his name and number 3) and he traces it but has no interest in trying himself.
Also he knows the alphabet so now I am trying to tach him letter recognition, but honestly i don't know how. We have flash cards (several packets actually) but he isn't really interested in these any more.

Anyone have suggestions? ]]> Toddlers and preschoolers ~WalkieTalkieHarry~ http://forum.birth.com.au/toddlers-preschoolers/98689-how-did-you-teach-your-toddler-how-spell-their-name-recognise-alphabet.html