Quote Originally Posted by MrsL View Post
If it were me . . . i wouldnt even try a VBA3Cs . . the risks would be way too high . . . having a VBAC - even after having 3 babies already is like a first timer giving birth and all the stress it would cause your scarred uterus is worrying. There is no way any1 can deny that scarred tissue is weaker. This in turn x 3 would put pressure on that scar tissue.

You can go ahead and do this - even homebirth . . but bear in mind that if your given say an 80% chance of being ok (not having the uterus rupture) then just remember that there is another 20% who are not ok . . . that the baby or mother doesnt make it. People do die in child birth, babies do die in child birth, even in our 1st world country. So we may like to believe we're not going to be one of the unlucky ones, but you cannot expect this. Is this a risk your willing to take? Will you put your life and your baby's life on the line just for your desire to have a natural delivery??

And i've got to tell you, i WISH i was able to have a VB, but on both occasions it really wasnt an option if i wanted living babies and this is the cold hard truth. I am sad about the whole affair, but i know there was nothing i could do to change the situation . I am just grateful i have two beautiful boys.

So dont go thinking any less of yourself just because you werent able to deliver your babies naturally . . . there is no shame in having a c-sect and it doesnt make you less of a woman. It doesnt really matter a whole lot how your baby came into the world, just that they arrived safely.
Perhaps you need to do some research before giving advice here. Risk of rupture is NOT 20% The risks of repeat surgery are worse than VBAC after any number of sections. As for your theory on scar tissue being weaker think about this - if you had surgery on your leg would you not walk just because there was a scar? Believe it or it scar tissue is not the problem in repeat sections usually - it is the style of closure that is important (single layer or double layer etc).

It is scare mongering and mis information like this that causes people to freak out and lose confidence in themselves and second guess what is best for their babies and themselves